24 July 2013

PPD isn't impressed by titles or wealth

I'm one of those people who is fascinated by royalty, especially the British Royal Family. I remember watching the funeral of Diana, Princess of Wales when I was a teenager. I watched Prince William's wedding to the former Kate Middleton live (streamed it on the internet) very early in the morning while I nursed a newborn baby. I've been enthralled waiting for the arrival of the newest member of their family (who came into the world on July 22, 2013), formerly known as "the royal baby" and now (since his name as been announced) known as HRH Prince George Alexander Louis of Cambridge.

This evening, something struck me that has stuck with me in the back of the mind for the last couple of days. I got to watch via live stream (yay for smart phones) as the Duke and Duchess of Cambridge brought Prince George out front of the hospital to meet the press, the public, and - in a way, the world - before leaving for Kensington Palace. Kate said something then that has been niggling at my brain; she said that it's "very emotional".

Pregnancy is emotional. Childbirth is emotional. Becoming parents is emotional, whether it's your first child or your third. She nailed it.

But I hope - and I don't know how well I can translate my thoughts and feelings on this in to words - that she knows to watch out for the negative emotions. I hope that she is surrounded by people who know about Postpartum Depression, Postpartum Anxiety, Postpartum OCD, Postpartum Psychosis, etc., who can help her keep an eye out for it and - should she start to suffer - help her get help.

But I don't just wish this for her. I wish this for EVERY new mom out there. My hope for all of you is that you have educated yourself about the realities and symptoms of PPMD, that you are surrounded by people who know about it and who will speak up and help you get help if they notice something is wrong.

PPMD is no respecter of persons. It doesn't care who you are. It's a bastard like that. We ALL deserve to be able to get help, though. Don't think that because you don't have a title you don't deserve help or are supposed to suffer. And don't think that because you're a celebrity you have to suffer in silence and just try to push through it.  If you need help, ask for it.

We all matter.



  1. This is a very sweet post, Esther. When I watched the video, I thought, "Wow; they look happy but tired." I found myself hoping they will be given time to just be parents and time to rest and recover. They live under a lot of pressure and I hope they have a way to blow it off in a healthy way, without pressure to "look perfect".

    Well said, Esther!

  2. I suspect she would have a hard time having PPD without getting help. I wish that were so for everyone it touches. Hugs to all.
    brilliant post, Esther.

  3. My friend, your site/blog speaks to me as I know the depression. I am a man so I can't relate to postpartum but I know the dark world of depression. It takes someone who has been there to understand how you felt. I would like to share my story on a simple blog that I've just started if you don't mind? I'm trying to reach out and help others as well. My url is http://tonysreviews.com

    Blessings to you and everyone effected by the monster of depression.